What does truth mean to you?
We find conflict all around us. Sometimes we cannot handle the emotional weight on our own. There are so many times we tell people what really happened, and many more times we hide ourselves away. It breaks our hearts, and cripples our confidence.
“It’s too much for them to hear”
“They don’t deserve my entirety anyway”
“I can’t deal with so much rejection”
“Do they really need to know?”
What about those times when we think about it from their perspective?
“Why are they talking to me about this?”
“Why am I still here?”
“What keeps me listening to what this overbearing oaf has to say?”
What about those times when you ask for their perspective? Do you ask why they are uncomfortable, or why they back away? Is it possible they’re not suited for your friendship? It may not reflect as much on you as you think it does.
Redefining truth
If you want to find the root of a conflict between two people, you must look at both people. One person cannot create a conflict on their own. They may project a problem they found elsewhere, but not create one alone.
I want you to think of a time when you last resolved a conflict. It wasn’t something your dance partner came up with on their own, was it? It was a combination of incompetence from each side. A breakdown of communication roughed up your dynamic.
While these spells of incompetence drive us to feelings of inadequacy, they are also entirely bullshit.
Self reflection and believing yourself
A lot can be gained from self reflection. It can be a way to slow down and think carefully about your circumstances. It can just as well be a way to halt all progress. Keep your methods of self reflection in check. Give yourself an allotment of time to think, and move on before you jump down any rabbit holes. The time you take to reflect is meant to assist the way you live, not the other way around. When you have an idea of what’s going on, reach out for another set of ears.
If you want to grow, you need to let yourself grow. Thinking negatively on whatever minor transgression you have acted upon yourself, will only further destroy you. Yes, it’s okay to love yourself. In fact, you need to love yourself. If you refuse this call, you will lose yourself. I want you to look yourself in the mirror, and speak these words:
“I love you.”
Do this every day. Clean the mirror when you need to, because you deserve to look clean. Clean your bed sheets because you deserve to start every day as fresh as the sun. Wash yourself even on days you don’t go to work; no, especially because you’re not going to work. You deserve your clean self more than anybody else. This is because you know what you’ve been through more than everybody else. If you want to connect with those around you, you must connect with your own inner beauty.
Have a fantastic day.