Short answer:
Of course it is! We’ve all got dark thoughts running through our head. It’s healthy to have a spectrum of emotions, and let yourself experience grief from where it hurts! Remember to keep an open door to positive influences, no matter where you are in life. Just take them in at your own pace. Then, it’s back to the grind.

Long answer:
No, it’s definitely more nuanced than that. But not by far! A lot of people will lose the initiative for casual and friendly interactions while dealing with grief. Think back to the last time you fell into a depressive state. The people who were there for you… who were they? You probably didn’t respond in gratitude right away, maybe spent some time working on yourself, but you got back to them. You told them how much they mean to you. You told them they were worth the time in your life, and had their back when they needed it. Whether or not your response to grief is *healthy* is less a concern than getting to where you ought be next. Ask not for permission. Ask for kindness. And make your moves. After the storms have passed, it’s time to assess what you will do better next time, and put measures in place to support your growth.

Keep at it! And keep growing! Here’s a new song for you, about a guilty lover having lost the life of his partner. No, it’s not from personal experience!

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Wraith

Was it the black in her silhouette
Was it the scent of my fear
Was it a shred of a memory
Or am I still here?

I found her in that abandoned warehouse
The one we used to hide from the night
The years we gambled on a fair premonition
You still remember us, right?

So while I’m running for my life
Thinking back to the time we shared
Holding us back from the knife
I wish on the stars behind the cold and silver veil
Shut my eyes
And fight for a sunrise

Is it you
Who I see
In that shady memory?
Was that all we’re meant to have
Or is there more illuding me?
You were with me all along
And I never meant you wrong
So if you please would let me leave and
Let me sing your swan song

Is it you
In my heart
Pushed me forward from the start
Now I left and you’re bereft
And it’s only to my fault
If I only could atone
Would you let me live alone
Sure I swear to never love again
You’re the only I’ve known